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(Anonymous) 2024-03-19 09:35 am (UTC)(link)
monogamous romantic relationships with men useless longterm if they are not for the purpose of economic stability. let's not pretend that we don't live in a patriarchal, capitalist society, anon. these kind of relationships always become the default primary in a woman's life, draining her time and energy away from other things she could be building. so yes, i said what i said, sure did. if a woman is getting spousal health insurance and tax breaks, etc from spending her youth with a man romantically, she oughtn't do it

(Anonymous) 2024-03-19 09:36 am (UTC)(link)
if a woman isn't getting spousal health insurance and tax breaks, etc from spending her youth with a man romantically, she oughtn't do it

(Anonymous) 2024-03-19 09:44 am (UTC)(link)
ok, i disagree with you completely that monogamous relationships with men are only useful from a financial pov lol. but you can have economic benefits from a ltr without getting married? you can live together, buy a house, share bills without marriage. unless you're just speaking from a very us-centric perspective and there's some additional financial benefits i'm not aware of? personally i am very financially stable and i would not want to rely on being married to a man for economic stability.

but in addition to that, things change a lot in relationships around the 7-8 year mark - that's often the time people get the itch to switch. not to mention other things like how you handle significant life events (especially illness or death), 3 years is rarely enough time to find that out and that's massively important to a happy relationship

but ig we probably just disagree on those fronts, good luck finding your man

(Anonymous) 2024-03-19 09:51 am (UTC)(link)
but you can have economic benefits from a ltr without getting married? you can live together, buy a house, share bills without marriage.

i just threw up in my mouth a little omggg. honestly, love yourself, anon

(Anonymous) 2024-03-19 10:14 am (UTC)(link)
i really don't understand your attachment to the concept of marriage like that. just because you are legally married doesn't mean a man will treat you better, help with housework or evenly share the mental load of being a couple which are much more important issues to women's happiness

(Anonymous) 2024-03-19 10:47 am (UTC)(link)
da youโ€™re right, ignore this loser clearly stuck in the fifties and with no money

(Anonymous) 2024-03-19 10:56 am (UTC)(link)
when your partner is a heterosexual man, there is very little guarantee for any of that in the first place and you just don't know until you know and sometimes, not even then. so the least a woman could do is to protect herself legally. which a smart marriage would do. now, i know you're probably going to say "but isn't the best way for a woman to protect herself legally is to remain unbound to a man"? and to that i say, absolutely. which is why the idea of living with a man and sharing bills and household chores with him for years and years while unmarried is absolutely revolting to me.

a marriage contract doesn't just potentially protect a woman from a man doing her wrong financially but it also protects their assets together in medical emergencies. if that man falls into a coma or dies, his next of kin is kind of anybody but that woman. depending on some important details, she may have absolutely no rights to anything they've built together and she won't have any rights to decide his medical care. and she's at the mercy of his family to treat her nicely and take her feelings into account.